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(More customer reviews)"Head over Heals: Women who Stay with Cross-Dressers and Transsexuals" is a provocatively, attention-getting title that is sure to appeal to men who are understandably concerned about what their wives and lovers think of cross-dressing and their transgendered or bi-gendered natures. This book delivers real-world stories, written by wives, about their husbands, their own lives, and how they have evolved through SARAH (Shock, Anger, Resentment, Acceptance, and even Hope). Edited by a sympathetic genetic female Ph.D. who clearly knows a little about the subject, this is a must-read for husbands and wives who want to stay together and learn to not only tolerate, but perhaps even appreciate, gender variances. Some stories are heart-wrenching, some will make you upset at intolerance, and most will leave you thinking that most wives are focused more on their own feelings than their husband's (very difficult) situation, but it is important to note (as we do with Helen Boyd's excellent "My Husband Betty") that crossdressers and T's of various flavors, who are married, are in a tango of two - and it takes two to tango. Recommended.
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Candid, first-hand accounts of couples who stay together despite highly emotional gender issues.Head Over Heels gives voice to thirty ordinary women who live extraordinary lives as partners to crossdressers, transgenderists, and male-to-female transsexuals. These unique women discuss, with honesty and great candor, how they first learned of their partners' gender issues, how they've coped with the emotions that followed, how they've dealt with concerns about privacy/secrecy, and how they've handled disclosure to children, friends, and family members. Far from a collection of 'happily ever after" stories, these narratives are filled with pain, courage, curiosity, and joy as each woman struggles to redefine a relationship that includes intimacy, social acceptance, dignity, and respect.The women whose stories are featured in Head Over Heels didn't know their partners were gender-variant when they first met. Some found out early on; others learned of their husbands' gender variance after decades of marriage. Some were told by their husbands-men they considered 'regular guys;" others found out on their own, sometimes in shocking ways. Their stories represent a wide spectrum of women's life experiences with crossdressers, transgenderists, transsexuals who are nonoperative, pre-operative, and post-operative, families without children, families with children at home, and families with children who have left home. But these women share one thing in common: each has decided to stay in her relationship, exploring her new life with an open, yet cautious, heart.Some of the voices heard in Head Over Heels:'While putting my clothes on, I found a sales receipt on the bureau from K-Mart for shoes, a bra, and stockings. My immediate thought was that my husband had a girlfriend."'He dressed for me one night and it was the worst experience of both our lives. I was shocked and he knew it and that hurt him."'My siblings had been aware of Trish's transsexualism for several years when she went full-time. They have told me that while I will always be welcome in their homes, Trish is not."'My husband may think differently, but I do have a sexual identity. Actually, I'm real clear about it-I am a woman and he is a man. I do not allow him to crossdress in the bedroom. I married a man; therefore, I will sleep with a man."Head Over Heels also includes historical and current information about resources and support for wives of gender-variant people, and a substantive introduction that includes basic information about sexual and gender identity and related issues.
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